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I believe in creating safe spaces for people coming from various paths of life. Through my writing I hope to bring a sense of community, inspiration, and comfort to be the best version of yourself to achieve your idea of success. My writing consist mainly of topics about mental health, social dynamics, and reflections on experiences that provided me with wisdom or expanded my world views.

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  • Writer: Dasia Zanders
    Dasia Zanders
  • Dec 6, 2021
  • 3 min read

I have often talked about how my mother influenced my child-like wonder for life, especially during the holiday season. Recently, I mentioned a tradition my mother learned from my aunt that involved the creation of reindeer food. When I was a child this was a ritual we performed on the night before Christmas. My mother would "make" reindeer food, hand it to me and we would scatter it all throughout the yard. She read me a poem about how the food would attract the reindeers to the yard and promise an arrival from Santa. In reality, this was nothing more than dried oats and a biodegradable glitter mixed together in a bag or vial to create a rather magical appearance of what is typically mundane.


Of course, when I got older the tradition was removed since I was no longer awaiting Santa's arrival and did not believe in the notion of flying deer in the sky. However, this ritual was revived a few years ago when I shared my childhood memory with my friends. They were curious and I was bored, so I created reindeer food. I took little glass vials, filled them halfway with dried oats and halfway with loose glitter. I shook up the vials so they all blended together in a pretty swirl and presented them to my friends. They were amused by how magical the end result appeared and somehow we found ourselves running around my front yard sprinkling oats and glitter all over until the grass was glistening under the holiday lights and moonlight.


We have done this silly tradition ever since that year and I always find myself laughing at our childish behavior appearing in those brief minutes before returning to our young adult responsibilities.


Thinking about the reindeer food now as an adult I think it's a rather genius idea. I realize all those speeches and poems my mother would tell me before we would throw around the food in the yard wasn't all about Santa. It was about something much deeper.


Oats are said to be symbolic and hold properties in magical practices and spirituality that are often tied to positive life elements. They are often used to bring in happiness, health, tradition, family matters, good fortune, friendship, faithfulness, healing, respect, and spiritual growth. The list could probably continue and depending on where you are in the world or who you're speaking to then you may get a variety of responses. As for glitter, it is often associated with being a pretty substance used primarily in crafts and makeup. It adds a hint of magic to things and for some reason, we as people tend to be amazed by anything that sparkles.


Often when combining the oats and glitter, idle chatter would take place. As a child, we would discuss my feelings and interests through the year with giggling delight. I was a child, naturally, a lot of my interests were funny and creative so of course, we were always smiling. As an adult, when I'm creating these vials and jars of reindeer food I'm often speaking with my mother or best friend about everything that has happened to bring us to where we are in that current moment. I recognize now that I'm essentially bottling up these emotions and thoughts, but because reindeer food is such a silly thing to do I am bottling these emotions and thoughts with kindness rather than complaint. I'm not angry, anxious, or distressed. Instead, I'm calm and grateful to have gotten through the year at all! When the time comes for my group of friends to run around the yard, we're so full of joy and hope for the new year.


My mother, unbeknownst to me, was teaching me how to release any negativity so that I can allow for my wishes and blessings to come forward. If we're always looking forward in life with expectations for the worst, we miss out on the ability to allow for some of the best to come forth. My friends and I hold our little reindeer potions close to us as we discuss what wishes we hope to come true going into the new year. We individually make a wish then make a wish as a collective. After that, we go running around the yard in absolute delight! It's a tradition I was convinced would fade out with age, instead, I find myself looking forward to passing it on to my future children and continuing to do this little ritual with my friends and family as long as we can.


If you're ever looking to add some whimsical joy into your life, perhaps this year you should buy some biodegradable glitter and a large box of oats and host your own ceremony of reindeer food.


Stay safe, have fun, and I hope to see you again soon!

  • Writer: Dasia Zanders
    Dasia Zanders
  • Dec 1, 2021
  • 3 min read

I know.


By the title of this post, this is nothing like my usual content. However, it is the holiday season which means it is the time of year where all my posts become more and more about happier topics and chaotic humor. Among all of the planning, gift shopping, and thinking about the various ways the year is coming to a close there is music. I have always had a deep love for music and have used it in a variety of ways. I've used music to make playlists for the stories I've written or the characters I've worked on. It's been my emotional outlet as it is for most of us. In my free time, I used to play guitar or play around on keyboards and pianos as a way to relax. I've even used music as a way of channeling with people I've lost in life and I know that might sound crazy and if you REALLY want to hear that story I will be more than happy to talk about it or make a post.


When I was younger, I loved holiday music! I thought it was so cheerful and usually, when it wasn't cheerful it was a beautiful arrangement of sounds. I enjoyed different versions of the same songs by different artists. It was truly fun and magical. Then I got older and the music became the same repetitive sounds and over time I lost the joy in the holiday spirit. For the last few years, I haven't played a Christmas album or holiday-themed playlist outside of the party I typically host. All of it lost its spark and enchantment on me. So, yeah, while most people are humming Christmas carols about now, I would be humming Halsey, Ariana Grande, Kehlani, Monsta X, and Ashnikko (yes, I realize that is quite the mash-up. Do not judge my music taste, please and thank you!).


Then emerging brighter than the golden star tree topper I have, Kelly Clarkson arrived with When Christmas Comes Around, and let me tell you...I am alive again. I have never and I mean NEVER felt more excited listening to a Christmas album in my life. Kelly Clarkson managed to craft together an album that explores all the aspects of the holiday season that people can connect to on deep levels of their hearts. There is celebration, heartache, gratitude, and even a bit of introspection twisted into this beautiful album. On one half of the album, there are witty remarks, a dash of sassy attitude, and a healthy dose of sarcasm. At the other end of the album, we get a lovely lift of classic cheer, fun exploration, a reflection of self, and counting blessings. It's the perfect blend! I caught myself hyping her up, laughing, and then crying, writing, and then dancing. All in one go???


Perhaps it's because Kelly Clarkson as an artist and a person was so prominent in my childhood, but she truly did something for me this holiday season that I haven't felt in a long time. She found a way for my inner child to meet my young adult self to celebrate Christmas in an authentically expressive way. That magical joy I once had as a kid was reawakened in adult form. I've played this album at least six or seven times by now and I'm about to play it again while I work on some writing, prepare some fun content for my book, and make other plans for the near future.


Thank you for reading my short ramble. Thank you, Kelly Clarkson, for giving me my ideal album for this holiday season! I'm listening to it on repeat and enjoying every single emotion that comes with it.


Stay safe everyone and take care of yourselves the best you can.


Love,

Dasia Z.


  • Writer: Dasia Zanders
    Dasia Zanders
  • Nov 24, 2021
  • 1 min read

It has officially been a week since my novel, Apartment 42, has been released! I am so excited for all the good things to come as we start approaching the end of the year and I am sincerely thankful for all the positivity I've received. I deeply appreciate the love and support I've been getting from everyone during this time.


While life has been busy and I've been working on so many things at once, I wanted to give a moment to encourage anyone reading the book to have fun with it! Apartment 42 is now yours and my wish for all of you is to make the most of it. Embrace the characters you love, let me know your favorite chapters, make playlists, fanfic, fan art, and just have fun. Do whatever you'd like with the story and the characters! It was mine for so many years that now it belongs to all of you to enjoy.


Thank you for giving the first week of the book so much love! I hope to continue making content that means something to each of you and leaves you feeling a sense of fulfillment, comfort, and happiness.


I love you.


Stay safe!


Love,

Dasia Z.

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